Monday, November 30

and now I ask for your help

I have two questions. One, am I supposed to get Alexis' teacher something for Christmas? I do not know the etiquette on these things, and I would have no idea what to give her anyway. So, input please.

Two. Does it make me a mean mom or a good mom that I let Alexis go to school with her hair fixed like this?
I hope it is obvious to you that she fixed it herself. I've written before about her independence (and if I would put tags on my dumb blog it would be a whole lot easier to find these posts that I reference!), but since her hair has been short we haven't had too many encounters with funny looking hair. Unbrushed hair, sure, but not necessarily funny looking. She came out of the bathroom this morning asking how it looked, with just a little trepidation in her voice. She obviously wasn't sure if it was cute, but I just couldn't crush her. I told her it was interesting, she was satisfied with that, and I couldn't find a nice way to tell her that I should fix her hair. So off she went like that to school. And I would like honest opinions on if that is mean of me to send her so goofy looking. Remember, she is 5.

7 comments:

Jessica Munk said...

I don't think its mean. Like you said she is 5 and independent. I don't know if I would have the consideration to not say what I honestly thought (not necessarily a good thing: see the movie "Because I Said So" :P). But if I were sick like you, I would have totally left it and not said anything. No, its not mean :). At least her hair was done :) I know boys and girls are different with hair. But I end up sending Zac to school a third of the time without his hair gelled. They're just little no biggie.

Reynolds Family said...

I love the hair! And honestly, I think it's great that you let her go to school that way. Seriously. I do! You are a great mom, and Alexis is growing up knowing she is a pretty cool kid.

As for the teacher gift . . . I would get her something. It's nice as a teacher to be remembered like this, but it shouldn't be anything expensive. I would have Alexis make her a card (priceless!) and give her something very, very simple, like a decorated sugar cookie or something for the classroom, such as a new stamp and ink pad or some new stickers. When I was a teacher, I never expected gifts, but when someone did give me something inexpensive and thoughtful like that it was awesome! :) I had an occasional expensive gift, but those (while nice!) weren't as meaningful because I knew the kid had nothing to do with it at all... Just my opinion, take it or leave it!

Scooby and Jon said...

I think it's good you let her have her independence. As for the teacher gift, I just asked Jon's mom, who teaches first grade. She likes stuff she can eat, she says no candles or lotion because everybody gets candles or lotion, or she's gotten cute little handtowels or things like that. But they are definitely not required.

The Shill Spill said...

I too think it is good (not mean) of you to let Alexis go to school thinking she has accomplished that one little thing before school. I have a battle most days with Jake about doing his hair. 90% of the time he goes to school without his hair even COMBED! Am I lazy, probably...but I'd rather him be happy and both of us not mad at eachother for making the other do something he doesn't want to. (Pick and choose your battles...my favorite motto!) I think she looks good too! I don't think many 5 year olds can do their hair as well as Alexis can.
I, too, was wondering what to do for teachers. Remember that list that got sent home by the school at the beginning of the year that told us what each teachers favorite things were. I am thinking of going off of that list. Something easy...and fun. (Mrs. Taylor likes Sweedish Fish. DONE!) :)

Lindsey said...

Definitely good. I have to bite my tongue at how C dresses himself sometimes (all one color head 2 toe) because he is so proud of himself. It's hard not to fix it, but I think it's great to give them their autonomy.

Adam and Rachael said...

Good for you Lisa! I always say you have to pick your battles. Hair, especially 5 year old hair, is not one of those important battles! (in my opinion). :)
As for the teacher question- I am a simple person. I think a card (hand made) by Alexis would be really nice.- or something like that. good luck!

Darla said...

Dayne LOVES doing her own hair, and others. My only rule is she can't wear a head band to church (since it's always so messy and she doesn't even wear it right). As for school, we'll see how much she improves in hairstyling by then. Alexis does a great job, btw!! (;