One of the realizations I've come to as a mother is that some things are not worth fighting over. It's good that I've figured this out because Alexis is fiercely independent. I'm sure some of it is the age, but a lot of it is her personality. She wants to do everything by herself--she wants to make her own breakfast in the morning, pick out her clothes daily, put movies in the DVD player by herself, brush her own hair and teeth, wash herself, even hang up her own clean laundry. Lately she's even been fixing her hair by herself, and this is probably the hardest one for me to accept. Because her hair looks like this:
Which I guess is an improvement to the unbrushed/unfixed mess that I usually leave it in. However she is always very proud of herself after she's fixed her hair, so if you see her in a 'do that looks a little crazy (like at church last Sunday), compliment her on how nice her hair looks!
I haven't picked out an outfit for Alexis in months. I will usually give her guidelines that she'll begrudgingly follow, like pants and a long sleeve shirt, but she picks out the specifics. Sometimes when she comes down in an outfit ready to leave the house, it takes all I have to hold my tongue and not make her go upstairs and change. One time she came to me with a blanket on her head and a headband wrapped around it, like this:
And in all seriousness that was what she wanted to wear to the library. I couldn't keep it in and proceeded to laugh for about 5 minutes, at which point she changed her mind.
The fact that I let her pick out her own clothes and fix her own hair seem to really help in other areas. There are simply some things she cannot do, and because I let her do the other little things, she's more willing to accept this fact. Also, it's an outlet for her creativity, and it's helping her develop her own style and take pride in being herself. While there are some days that I wish she would just let me pick out an outfit for her, I love that she wants to be original and I hope it sticks around.
Here's a sampling of one of her outfits, click the picture to make it bigger.